...it's all about the soldier

How does anyone find me on this site as a CIVILIAN if my profile is not out there?

If you want yourself ‘seen’, this leaves you a bit of work and responsibility. Your profile is only visible and can only be saved if your username is seen and known and then someone decides to click on you to view your profile. Your username and profile can get seen by anyone if they have your username, see your blogs or commentaries, etc., on this site and then click on you, or if you message anyone.